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1. Who will you be?
There are real goals and there are steps toward real goals. A goal will cause you to BE something more than you are now: selling 10 cars this month is not a goal; losing 50 pounds is not a goal. However, loving your life in a log cabin in the mountains is a goal; being a renowned expert on a specific subject is a goal and feeling great about yourself wearing a bathing suit or a beautiful gown is a goal. Ask yourself “who will I BE after I achieve this goal?”… If the answer is someone you want to BE then that is a goal.
2. Remember the magical Power of Three.
Set no more than three goals at any one time. Research shows the human mind can only focus on three things at a time. There is a reason President Lincoln said “…if the people, by the people, for the people”; Daniel Webster said “Liberty and Union, now and forever, one and inseparable” and Winston Churchill said “Never give up, never ever give up; don’t ever give up.” Faith, hope and charity/ morning, afternoon and night. We humans think in sets of three. Use the power of three to your advantage in achieving your goals.
3. Be true to yourself.
Set goals that are totally yours – not goals someone else thinks you should achieve. If those around you think you should go to university, but all you think about is being a Hollywood stuntman, you will struggle to achieve the university goal and you will go after the stuntman goal with all the energy that you have.
4. Pave your path with stepping stones.
Set mini-achievements for each step along the way to your big goals and celebrate your mini-victories. Feel very, very good about yourself as often as you can (one step every day for each big goal would be wonderful). See the progress towards your big goals and you will be strongly motivated to take the next step along the path.
5. Stay in control of your destiny.
Set steps that you can control. If you want to sell 10 houses each month to reach your goal of being in a beautiful home in the mountains, then your stepping-stone will be to mail 25 introduction letters every week, get five referrals from past clients every week and write a weekly column in the newspaper. Those are steps you can control.
6. Be PASSIONATE.
Set goals that make you want to jump out of bed in the morning! Or – find a reason to become on fire about them. Oprah recently presented a show with several people who had lost over 150 pounds. They all said the same thing: Yes, they had tried every diet known to man but none of them had worked. BUT, when a Doctor told each of them that their health was in definite danger AND when they had a reason to keep living (seeing their grandchildren grow-up, giving their daughter away at her wedding, etc.), ONLY THEN did they have the burning desire and passion to achieve their goal of losing weight. They had a reason to BE alive.
7. Become Alexander the Great.
Set goals that improve your strengths. Improving your weaknesses only brings you up to mediocrity! One of the most popular books on management this year is entitled “Now, Discover your Strengths.” This book says “…guided by our parents, by our teachers, by our managers and by our psychologists’ fascination with pathology, we become experts in our weaknesses and spend our lives trying to repair these flaws, while our strengths lie dormant and neglected.” What an unhappy and mediocre life that is. Concentrate on improving your strengths so you will be great … not mediocre.